Mistkaes, and admitting when you’re wrong

August 7th, 2004

Boston.com / News / Nation / Veteran retracts criticism of Kerry

A week after Senator John F. Kerry heralded his wartime experience by surrounding himself at the Democratic convention with his Vietnam ”Band of Brothers,” a separate group of veterans has launched a television ad campaign and a book that questions the basis for some of Kerry’s combat medals.

But yesterday, a key figure in the anti-Kerry campaign, Kerry’s former commanding officer, backed off one of the key contentions. Lieutenant Commander George Elliott said in an interview that he had made a ”terrible mistake” in signing an affidavit that suggests Kerry did not deserve the Silver Star — one of the main allegations in the book. The affidavit was given to The Boston Globe by the anti-Kerry group to justify assertions in their ad and book.

Elliott is quoted as saying that Kerry ”lied about what occurred in Vietnam . . . for example, in connection with his Silver Star, I was never informed that he had simply shot a wounded, fleeing Viet Cong in the back.”

The statement refers to an episode in which Kerry killed a Viet Cong soldier who had been carrying a rocket launcher, part of a chain of events that formed the basis of his Silver Star. Over time, some Kerry critics have questioned whether the soldier posed a danger to Kerry’s crew. Crew members have said Kerry’s actions saved their lives.

Yesterday, reached at his home, Elliott said he regretted signing the affidavit and said he still thinks Kerry deserved the Silver Star.

”I still don’t think he shot the guy in the back,” Elliott said. ”It was a terrible mistake probably for me to sign the affidavit with those words. I’m the one in trouble here.”

Elliott said he was no under personal or political pressure to sign the statement, but he did feel ”time pressure” from those involved in the book. ”That’s no excuse,” Elliott said. ”I knew it was wrong . . . In a hurry I signed it and faxed it back. That was a mistake.”

The affidavit also contradicted earlier statements by Elliott, who came to Boston during Kerry’s 1996 Senate campaign to defend Kerry on similar charges, saying that Kerry acted properly and deserved the Silver Star.

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It’s good to see someone who can admit he was wrong and made a mistake. When we have a president who can’t think of any mistakes he has made, after 3000 people died in an attack on this country and thouands have died in a needless war in Iraq, it’s good to know there are still those who can admit they were wrong to fall into the spell of these people who think we can all be manipulated into giving them our country.

We all make mistakes – it’s a part of being human. The strongest people are those who own up to those mistakes and learn from them, rather than denying they have ever failed or made any mistakes. Only when a leader can admit mistakes and correct them can we know they deserve our trust.

Heart

August 7th, 2004

Xin. Heart, mind. The heart is the center of our body from which truth emanates.

The ancients never made any distinction between the heart and the mind. In the ancient script, the two are synonymous. This point cannot be overemphasized, and you will understand the ancient scriptures a hundred times better if you remember that the heart and the mind were regarded as one.

The ancients did not separate mind and body, so they did not separate thinking from emotion.

They did not separate ideas from action.

They did not separate logic from intuition.

By seeing the mind as synonymous with the heart, they avoided a thousand philosophical problems. We who forget that the heart and mind are one can solve a thousand daily problems by remembering the single word: heart.

Deng Ming Dao, Everyday Tao

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I see this problem a lot with my scientific friends. They seem to value logic over emotion, and so miss the value of emotions and feelings. Many things may make sense logically that do not make sense in your heart. We are always encouraged to “follow your heart”, and “follow your bliss”. I think there’s a lot to be said for doing that. Even though others may judge what you do as wrong, if you are following your heart and what it is really telling you, and not harming others in doing so, you are probably doing ok.

I have always done the best in my life when I truly followed my heart. I get accused of being too “intense”, or of loving too much, or of being selfish for following a path that others might not believe right or wise, but, if in my heart I felt what I was doing was true and right for me and those involved, it has worked out. I have lost friends for doing this, but perhaps they were not meant to be real friends to begin with, or we had simply learned as much as possible from each other and it was time to follow separate paths.

I wish they could understand heart and mind are not separate, and truly follow their own hearts. I think we would still be friends, then. At least, I hope so, because that is what my heart tells me.

How strange. I was just thinking about this this morning.

August 6th, 2004

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Woot! Finally a book for the millenials!! YAY!!!

August 5th, 2004

Millennials Rising – Neil Howe and William Strauss

Welcome to millennialsrising.com, a website for and about America’s rising generation, born in the 1980s and ’90s. Hosted by the authors Neil Howe and William Strauss, millennialsrising.com provides a serious discussion forum on Millennial issues.

A decade ago, in Generations, Strauss and Howe predicted many of the youth trends America is beginning to see today. Now, in Millennials Rising, the authors show how today’s teens are recasting the image of youth from downbeat and alienated to upbeat and engaged. The authors also show…
how Millennials are held to higher standards than adults apply to themselves … how they’re a lot less violent, vulgar, and sexually charged than the teen culture older people are producing for them … how, over the next decade, they’ll entirely recast what it means to be young … and how, in time, they could emerge as the next great generation.

Please take a look around. Read an excerpt from Chapter One of Millennials Rising, or some Qs&As from the authors. Learn more about the authors and their other books. Learn about American Generations and how they shape history. See some of R.J. Matson’s terrific cartoons. View the results of two surveys that the authors conducted specially for this book. Find out what the authors are predicting about Millennials. Check out the links—especially to fourthturning.com, the authors’ other website, for a multigenerational conversation that’s been going on for over three years now.

Also, explore our discussion forum, where you can join in a conversation about families, schools, race, politics, commerce, technology, kids and teens around the world, and what Millennials will be like in the future. We also invite you to post your own review of the book or essay on a Millennial topic.

I am becoming the woman I’ve wanted

August 5th, 2004

I Am Becoming

by Jayne Relaford Brown

I AM BECOMING
the woman I’ve wanted,
grey at the temples,
soft body, delighted,
cracked up by life
with a laugh that’s
known bitter
but, past it, got better,
knows she’s a survivor­
that whatever comes,
she can outlast it.
I am becoming a deep
weathered basket.

I am becoming the woman
I’ve longed for,
the motherly lover
with arms strong and tender,
the growing up daughter
who blushes surprises.
I am becoming full moons
and sunrises.
I find her becoming,
this woman I’ve wanted,
who knows she’ll encompass,
who knows she’s sufficient,
knows where she’s going
and travels with passion.
Who remembers she’s precious,
but knows she’s not scarce­
who knows she is plenty,
plenty to share.

The Party of Life

August 5th, 2004

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Every young woman should read this, and thank an older woman

August 4th, 2004

Time Goes By – What it’s really like to get older
Go read the whole post, and bookmark her blog. Great, great, writing.

We of the Interim generation were raised to marry, have children and keep house. If we went to college or work, it was considered a time filler, something to do until we found the man of our dreams and moved to the suburbs. The words “career”and “woman” were not mentioned in the same sentence and the only “professions” open to women, usually “spinsters” who could not find a husband, were nurse, teacher and secretary.

Then something happened on our way to fulfilling our destinies as brood mares. Everyone believes they remember what happened in 1963: John F. Kennedy was assassinated. But there was another event that year, at first overshadowed by the death of the president, that would at a slower pace have a much greater effect on western culture. Betty Freidan’s The Feminine Mystique was published.

Pick up that book today and you will groan. The writing is so dense it reads like cement and I have trouble imagining now how I got through it. But I did, along with millions of other women, and it changed not just our individual lives – it changed, in time, everything.

A couple of years ago, I ran into a snippy little 20-something just down from Cambridge with a shiny, new Harvard MBA making $150K as a Wall Street analyst. She told me that feminism is not relevant to her generation because they have evolved beyond the self-consciousness of labels.

Oh puh-leeze. Who does she think made it possible for her to go to Harvard, an all-male school when I was her age. Who does she think made it possible for her to become an analyst, an all-male enclave not so long ago. And who does she think made it possible for her to get a mortgage or any other kind of credit without a male co-signer?

Who did all that? We did, the women of the 1970s who got together in thousands of small consciousness raising sessions all over the U.S. to study Betty Friedan’s thesis and figure out how to put it to work in the real world. It was so radical then that many could not tell their husbands what we were doing at those meetings. Men made the decisions then. Men ruled the household then. Men even told wives how to vote then. And if your husband didn’t want you to read a certain book and have certain kinds of women friends, you didn’t.

So soon we forget.

Bravo, and THANK YOU!!!! Bless all you older women for being brave, beautiful, and strong enough to lead the way for those of us who owe you so much.

Why you should get your news from the Internet

August 3rd, 2004

“Language in thought and action”. I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants to understand how language is used to manipulate opinion. I wish it were still required reading in high schools.


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