Monthly Archives: August 2009

How have your dreams been of late?

Wrote this comment in response to Casey’s post today on Personal Tao and invite you to answer his query as well:

My dreams tend to follow my day to a large extent — last night was planning to go to a barbecue this evening with a friend, and dreamed about that friend. I also was doing a talk for the Humane Society and the other speaker was a man who I’ve heard talk about the chaparral and fire prevention, so I dreamed about fires. Haven’t had any very unusual dreams lately.

I think my spirit is pretty settled. When it is changing, I tend to dream about houses. When there’s lots of construction going on, I know things are at work. If the house is large and there are parties going on, I know I’m in a good place with myself and others. ;^) If I’m dreaming about other people’s houses, then I’m usually working on something in that relationship, or worried about them for some reason.

I really know things are wrong when I dream about black cars. For some reason, they pop up in really troubled times. I dream about animals when I’m getting some kind of spiritual message — often wolves or dogs or sometimes birds.

Old posts on dreams and imagination:

Imagination
Sleep
Golden Dreams
These Dreams
(more later — must run off to a barbecue…)

Relationship

“A person isn’t who they are during the last conversation you had with them – they’re who they’ve been throughout your whole relationship.” — Rainer Maria Rilke (via QuinnCreative

“To know someone here or there with whom you can feel there is understanding in spite of distances or thoughts unexpressed — that can make of this earth a garden.” — Goethe

“To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.” — Doménico Cieri Estrada

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one” — C.S. Lewis

“One of the greatest titles we can have is “old friend”. We never appreciate how important old
friends are until we are older. The problem is we need to start our old friendships when we are
young. We then have to nurture and grow those friendships over our middle age when a busy life and changing geographies can cause us to neglect those friends. Today is the day to invest in those people we hope will call us ‘old friend” in the years to come.” — Grant Fairley

“We don’t get to know people when they come to us; we must go to them to find out what they are like.”
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“So long as we love, we serve; so long as we are loved by others, I should say that we are almost indispensable; and no man is useless while he has a friend.” — Robert Louis Stevenson

Pivoting (repost)


Norma Penchansky-Glasser, Pivotal Space

Some days, you and I go mad.
Our bellies get stuffed full,
Hearts break, minds snap.
We can’t go on the old way so
We change. Our lives pivot,
Forming a mysterious geometry.

Life revolves. You cannot go back one minute, or one day. In light of this, there is no use marking time in any one position. Life will continue without you, will pass you by, leaving you hopelessly out of step with events. That’s why you must engage life and maintain your pace.

Don’t look back, and don’t step back. Each time you make a decision, move forward. If your last step gained you certain amount of territory, then make sure that your next step will capitalize on it. Don’t relinquish your position until you are sure that you have something equal or better in your grasp. But how do we develop timing for this process?

It has to be intuitive. On certain days, we come to our limits, and our tolerance for a situation ends. When that happens, change without the interference of concepts, guilt, timidity, or hesitancy. Those are the points when our entire lives pivot and turn toward new phases, and it is right that we take advantage of them. We mark our progress not by the distance covered but by the lines and angles that are formed.

Deng Ming-Dao, 365 Tao

“We mark our progress not by the distance covered but by the lines and angles that are formed.”

I really like that line. Sometimes people seem so focused on moving straight ahead, and don’t even realize they are actually sliding sideways, or that they’ve run into a wall and can’t possibly move forward any longer the way they are going. Or our lives take what seems to be a sideways turn, that ends up leading us in the right direction. Or we might realize that we need to turn a corner before we can start moving in the right direction again. How can you even move through the day without changing the direction you are walking? So why do we think life always moves forward in a straight line?

I try to get to yoga at least once a week (not very succesful at this lately, unfortunately…) and the great thing about yoga is moving your body through so many different positions and angles. If you can do a little more in the pose every week, you’re making progress. You might not always be in perfect form, but that’s ok too. I try to incorporate at least a bit of yoga into every day – a forward bend here, a spinal twist there, or going through a few sun salutions for a five minute workout. We need to move through different positions throughout the day, not stay in the same fixed position all day.

And so it is with our lives. We need to keep moving, and changing, and growing. If we become stagnant, too full, or try too hard to cling to something or someone that doesn’t want to be part of our lives anymore, we will go mad, or become unhappy, or snap. Yeah, been there, done that, too. And things changed. And now, I’m happy, fulfilled, and no longer searching for anything outside of myself to make my life better. I am becoming the woman I’ve wanted, and each day, I can look at that poem, which is posted in my bathroom, and smile, because I am more that person every day.